How goes your mind, goes your attitude and your actions. Which is why it is so important for us as Christian women to be continually purging our thought life. Many times we have to take extra measures to keep our thoughts from running wild so that they don’t lead us into a train wreak of hurt and bitterness of spirit. Well, I just know that I personally have to take extra measures! 🙂
I’m thinkin’ about you and it’s a happy thought!
Before I married my dear man, my mother, who has a beautiful marriage, gave me some incredible advice. I want to share it with my readers because I believe it can be a help to others, like it has helped me.
She told me to make a list of the 50 things I like about my man and keep it in my dresser drawer. Whenever I feel a negative thought arising towards him, the first thing I should do is go read over that list and meditate on all the things that I do like about him and all the ways he means so much to me. Then if I need to address him regarding the source of the negative thought, my heart will be in a much better place to do so.
Well, you can imagine that once I’ve filled my mind with those 50+ things that I love about my hubs, there’s not much room for that prior negative thought. My heart is overwhelmed with gratefulness for all that my husband does do for me! The list has changed and been added to as we grow closer together and face life’s challenges together. I can’t get through my list without a smile breaking across my face.
I thought about sharing my list with you all, but I don’t want anyone to compare. Your husband is a completely different individual than mine, with different strengths, and I’m sure he does completely different things for you that you appreciate. No doubt that no two lists will be alike. Plus, some of my favorite reasons for loving my man, the reasons that make me smile the biggest, are quite intimate and probably shouldn’t be posted publicly. 🙂 I’ll just leave it at that! 🙂
Song of Solomon 2:15 says, “Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.”
Keeping a list of those 50 things I love about my man has been such a good way for me to keep the “little foxes” out of our marriage.
By the way, if you aren’t married, this concept still works on other people around you. No, I do not have a bunch of lists of the 50 things I like about everyone in my life. But it does help to change your attitude about someone if you can find several things that you do like about them. And yes, there is a time and a place for discernment, but there is no place for negativity towards anyone, especially amongst believers and those of your own household, as it just becomes the breeding ground for bitterness.
Hopefully, this idea will bless your house as it has mine and keep that stinkin’ thinkin’ at bay!
In His Love,